I’m not going to say there’s no grey area here, but I think you’re painting the line as vastly, vastly more blurry than we both know it is in practice. At this point I trust Fatshark’s definition of a cheaty mod more than I trust the community’s self regulation frankly.
In response to the rest of your post, I’m going to quote what I said in the other recent mod post:
Basically I would have once agreed what we have is better than Fatshark oversight, but that belief has been eroded away almost entirely by the community’s continued abysmal self regulation.
I’d love a modded realm too obviously, that would help considerably, but I need you to understand the extent to which the well has already been poisoned for me to prefer Fatshark oversight in any situation.