Sorry for jumping in and going off-topic here, and I also wanna point out that person you replied to is on my blocklist. Only toxics or willfully ignorant ppl go there so I’m definitely not taking their side in this.
Before I start tho, please read to the end before replying, this won’t go as it might seem at first.
I’ve been a grammar nazi since I was a wee thing. I mean I don’t say it out loud & act like a jerk over it, but still. There’s a reason for it. While we all make mistakes - and I’m certainly no exception to that believe me -, there’s a lot to be said for the desire to learn better. Communication especially is an extremely important skill, every single time we talk with someone or write about something, we’re attempting to communicate.
A person then who communicates while repeatedly making the same simple mistakes, never caring to learn better, even acting insulted and dismissive when called out on it, implies something about their character: That they probably have that same lax attitude and low standards about everything else they do. They probably don’t bother verifying their information sources, likely ignore most healthy critique - internal or external -, don’t really self-reflect, nvm self-correcting their own views or developing their skills based on new information in general. In short: it speaks for low intellect, low interest in learning, and casts a serious shadow of doubt over every single thing that person says or believes.
Except, well… It doesn’t really work out that way does it? While I absolutely believe in the correlation of all the above, in practice I’ve learned there are just far too many exceptions to even call them exceptions at all. Language, culture, education, not to mention things like dyslexia, ADHD & other neurodivergence, personality and so many other things easily explain away the grammar in people who absolutely are otherwise prudent and trustworthy in whatever they do. So throughout my whole life I’ve had to try & unlearn that attitude above, unsuccessfully.
Doesn’t help that being neurodivergent myself, there’re a million things about language & communication that to me at best feel like semantics, but to almost everyone else are vitally important nuances that can change their entire meaning. Which has led me to an endless number of misunderstandings and hurt feelings without me even realizing what went wrong. Being a grammar nazi when I’m like that? It just makes me nothing short of a hypocrite.
But, well, anyway. That’s how I feel about grammar. I am trying to learn better ofc, but that’s no excuse.