Before anyone else does it, i want to remind you that there are is an official discord for V2 as well as multiple other (big) public servers. Even language restricted ones (can’t find a better term, they are not nationalistic afaik), i’m part of a german one were you can almost guaranteed find a match in less than 5 min, someone is always online and willing to play.
I don’t want to discourage you, i have a private server myself where i used to invite people to with the same intention as you. I also was part of multiple private servers that were used with the same intention.
Until i actively participated in one of those bigger servers i thought everything was fine and dandy. Yet, i discovered that using them will get you to know so much more people, and extremely talented ones at that. It will also result in far quicker matches with people you might already know. Of course you will get your fair share of stupid people, but hey, that’s gotta be expected.
I want to encourage you to try out those servers first, you can ask on reddit if you maybe want one in a specific language, the usual suspects are stickied on the sidebar.
If you want to keep it more private i can respect that, but you sound like someone that justs wants to find people to play with, and the aforementioned path is way easier and quicker as well, speaking out of experience.